I've probably said it 100 times before, but I suck at submissions for a multitude of reasons... and now I get to add another reason I suck at them to the list.
I let them go.
If I am with someone much better than I am (which is basically everyone), I assume I won't be able to finish them, and I let them go. Fact of the matter is.... I will never finish a submission I let go. Never.
*I was grappling someone, and I went for a triangle, thought I didn't have it, so I moved on. He said, "You had that." In passing and we kept moving. Then later I was going for a rear naked, and let it go. He stopped for a second that time and told me I had my arm under his chin, and I shouldn't have let it go. Then it happened again, "Why did you let that go?"
I let it all go because I know logically that the chances of my submitting that person were close to nil, and I A. Don't think I should waste time and energy on a submission I am not going to catch, and B. I feel like if I try to hard on a submission on a person I can't actually submit I will look presumptuous.... like I think I can submit them. Which I know is retarded. I SHOULD try... that is the whole point.
I will say though, I am getting over my apprehension of submissions in general. I used to not like to do them for fear of upsetting the person I was submitting... but I think I am over that. Last night I was attempting to choke someone, and I could see them turning purple, and vains starting to bulge, but they didn't look anywhere close to getting ready to tap. Normally, I would let it go just to avoid making that person feel bad, or upset... but, I didn't last night. It was a choke, so I was prepared to take it all the way to sleepy town if necessary. I didn't have to go that far thankfully, and not shockingly the person did tap, and wasn't mad. Life went on.
*Anything I 'had' or attempted to 'have' was only possible because the person I was grappling came down to my level.