I would rather get submitted 90 times in 5 minutes then grapple someone who easily controls me and looks bored while they do it. Truly.
It feels so shameful. I'm not just bad, I'm boring. Awesome.
I'm not beating myself up about it too bad though... I am a white belt and I bored a black belt. I think that is pretty standard. Oh well. Sorry I am a bore.
In other news.... On a recent post about letting submissions go, I was given some really great advice. When I have a submission, I should hold the position and wait for the person to do the inevitable freak out and capitalize on their mid freakout mistakes. Not shockingly this works. Well.
I have also vowed to go for and finish at least one submission per grapple, and with my new tactic, I have been largely successful against other white belts... Super failing with the higher belts, as expected but I am at least going for them now, which I think is a mark in the win department. Even on the bored black belt... my submission attempt was swatted away as though it was a feeble half dead one winged fly... but hey, the attempt was there, and I tried as though I would have finished it... for the duration of the attempt... which was brief. I am still viewing it as a win though.