This is what about 75% of the women I approach about BJJ say to me when I invite them to come train.
Perhaps I am just getting tired of hearing it, but it is starting to sound like,
"I think you are an enormously manly freak, and I don't want you to sweat on me."
I know they are in no way referring to me, or the rest of the girls who train when they say they are too girly, but it is starting to sound like an accusation of a lack of being girly.
Consider this your personal news flash people. I am a girly girl, and I also know how to choke you out.
Just because several time I week I don a gi, train hard and sweat my butt off does not mean I am not also a feminine, dress wearing, nail painting, making up loving, shoe collecting woman just like those of you who think you are too girly for BJJ.
It just means that I stand a chance of defending myself or my children if God forbid I ever need to. It also means that I am stronger and more healthy than I've ever been in my entire life, and because of Jiu-jitsu I am better role model for my own girly daughter. It also means that I have an excellent outlet for stress. On top of that, Jiu-jitsu has helped me learn to to love me for who I am, and has shown me that I am stronger than I ever thought I could be.
Yes, I am a grappler.
Yes, I am a girly girl.
They are not exclusive. You can be both.